Finding Some Balance in Life

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Somedays I feel like I’m doing pretty well. I’ve got my priorities straight, things under control, kids all headed in the right direction… It’s all good.

And then there are other days- like today- when I can hear Life laughing at me and what it thinks as my feeble attempts to make any progress.

I’ve got a job that keeps me running during the day, sometimes into the evening, and a volunteer list that fills up quite a bit of my dance card fairly often. But my girls are out of the house, leaving me with just a pooch that’s needy for attention. So, why is it that I still can’t seem to get a good work, writing, volunteering, exercising, sleeping, fun-time schedule figured out?

I homeschooled my girls for multiple years and kept a pretty rigid schedule during the day. We had to in order to meet the goals I’d set out for them as students. While I was in my both of my master’s programs I had a detailed schedule for reading, homework, research and writing. And I’m proud to say I was a great student. 🙂

So again, why is it that with others or when others are involved I’m better at trying to ensure everything is good to go. But when it comes to just plain me– exercise to feel better, write more often because I love it and plan to sell someday, sleep more because my body needs it– I keep falling off the wagon?

I’m wondering if it’s my need to help others or focus on others rather than focus on myself. Sometimes that’s a good thing– others before self. Sometimes, it’s a bad thing– help others to the detriment of self.

It’s about balance. That’s what I talk to my girls about. So, I’m thinking it’s time for me to practice what I preach.

Recognize that if I want to sell a book or feel healthier about my body, then I need to do something about it. Make it a priority just like I make thinking about others a priority.

So, I ask you, is there something you’ve been wanting to do or thinking about doing that you keep putting aside? Is now a good time to work on that or try that? Maybe, maybe not. Only you can decide.

But I’d love to hear how you’re coping with finding balance in your daily life. It can be a struggle. Hearing how others handle it, make it work, or maybe flounder sometimes, too, helps me realize that I’m not alone in this. And maybe something that helps one of you might be a great tip for me or our readers to try.

Thanks for sharing!!

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    prisakiss

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    Sorry I didn’t get this posted earlier! I totally meant to post when I got to work, but then got sucked into a busy day!

    Funny (or not) that my post is about balance when I haven’t had much of it today! Hmmm……

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    Sandy Kenny

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    Thanks for posting this here today. All week long I kept asking myself, “when am I going to have some me time??”…and the answer I got was “maybe sometime next week/month” The balance thing has been so elusive for me, some days I simply have a “shut-down” day. I have 4 kids in 4 different schools (2 kids have special needs); I take care of my MIL, who is in a nursing home (I handle all of her doctor appointments); my own mother has ovarian cancer and needs me to help her with appointments (my sister has special needs and can’t help and brother lives 600 miles away. I only live 150 miles away); my oldest son is going to college in the Fall, so guess who has to do all the financial aid…aside from all that, there’s baseball and cub scouts and Girl Scouts–all of which I volunteer for. Did I mention the IEP meetings that I regularly have for the special needs students? Had two of those this week! I usually don’t mind being so busy, but I do mind when my husband complains about my lack of regular employment. He complains to me every day! I forgot to mention that we have a couple of rental properties that I help him to run (I get to deal with tenants, collecting rents, dealing with complaints, etc)…Aside from that I work part-time for the county board of elections (but the work is only on an as-needed basis). If there is anything that I feel has been shunted is my lack of a Bachelor’s degree. I never got to finish because of marriage/children. Now that my oldest son is entering college, I am really starting to feel it. My writing has been neglected for so long, I am not certain I’ll ever get published…It’s so frustrating! Did I mention that hubby got his Master’s Degree last year and just announced that he’s going for a doctorate? When am I going to get my chance?
    Sorry for the rant. I really needed to vent! Thanks for being so kind to listen!

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      prisakiss

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      Sandy, sometimes we just need to vent. That’s okay.

      Sounds like you’ve got a lot of responsibilities in your life and while having 4 kids is a blessing, we all know how hard parenting can be. The PBOK moms definitely understand the struggle to juggle family, friends and self.

      I’d suggest trying to find those little pockets of time when you can treat yourself, have some quiet time, do something to help refill your creative well. It doesn’t have to be a long period of time– with kids and everything, you may not be able to find a long period of time. But you can probably find 5, 10, or 30 minutes at some point in the day to just step aside from everything and make sure you’re mentally and emotionally taken care of as well.

      Good luck with everything. Please stop by again and let us know how you’re doing!

      Fondly,
      Priscilla

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    shanagalen

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    I didn’t know you had homeschooled. Interesting. I make a lot of lists, and that helps me find balance. I find the more I organize things, the more I can check something off and move something to another day and nothing gets left behind. Well, I sometimes get left behind, but I try to make sure I don’t put unreasonable demands on myself.

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      prisakiss

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      Shana, I home schooled my girls during elementary school for several years. Loved it and had a very positive experience!

      I’m a big “to do” list person. It’s funny how much satisfaction I get just checking off something as “done.” 🙂

      But you hit the nail on the head with your last sentence about “unreasonable demands” we place on ourselves. That’s an issue I deal with often, thinking I can do more than is really possible. Sometimes my reality isn’t true reality when it comes to time. 🙂

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    Jill K. Q.

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    Priscilla,
    Sorry to jump in late, but have you read or heard of Gretchen Rubin’s “Happiness Project”? it’s a book, but she also has a lot of free stuff in her website. She talks about personality groupings she came up with after studying personality and happiness. There is one type of personality that she calls “Obliger” and that’s a person that is very good at meeting promises they make to others, but sometimes have a hard time meeting their personal goals. She has some specific suggestions for that type. You might find it interesting.

    The thing I’m struggling with right now is that I only have one window of guaranteed solo time and that is early in the morning. The rest of the day is family and chore time. Now I love to run and I love to write and I usually don’t have time to do both and they’re both important to mental/physical well being, so I’m trying to figure it out. Sometimes I run early and try to squeeze writing around naptimes and kids’ TV time ;-). Sometimes I write early and I go for a run when my husband comes home from work or I do an exercise DVD at naptime. Neither is my favorite thing as I tend to lose physical, emotional, and mental steam as the day goes on! But I figure I’ll keep trying and will work something out.

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    prisakiss

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    Jill, I completely understand the dilemma between exercise and writing time!

    Thanks so much for the Happiness Project information. I’ll definitely head over there right away and see what tools/ideas I can pick up. I appreciate the info!

    Have a great weekend!

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