Domestic Violence Has No Place in Our Society

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I’m not a lawyer, a judge, a trained victim’s advocate, or in any way a professional in the field of law enforcement, so I have to admit that my statements here are my unprofessional opinion.

Yes, I am a woman, so my thoughts on the topic —if you look at the statistics—may seem skewed to side with my gender.

But setting aside my profession and gender, more importantly, I am a PERSON! My sense of humanity and compassion for others precludes me from violence against another.

So, when I say that I am appalled, disgusted and saddened by the issue of domestic violence, please understand that is an abysmally gross understatement.
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If you’re not a sports fan, until yesterday you may not have heard about the latest headline-generating incident about an NFL player’s domestic violence charge.

http://www.nydailynews.com/sports/football/ray-jones-ray-rice-domestic-violence-case-person-blame-article-1.1933003

But with new, more condemning video being released, it’s safe to say that the NFL, the player’s team, the local prosecutor and the police completely botched this case from the very beginning.

Today, the case dominates the airwaves—from our morning talk shows to ESPN, from newspapers to the web, and everywhere in between.

The silver lining here—and I cringe to even type those words—is that now more people are talking about the evils of domestic violence. Hearing a sports commentator state, “The question shouldn’t be why the victim goes back to the perpetrator, but rather, why does the perpetrator continue to be violent” is important. This backward attack—blame the victim, not the perpetrator—needs to stop.
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Domestic violence—physical, mental, emotional—does NOT begin by the victim. The person does NOT ask for it. And “just get up and leave” isn’t always as easy as it sounds.

Domestic violence MUST stop.

Victims need assistance, not condemnation!

All of us deserve to live in a home, a town, and a world where we feel safe and secure. Healthy love and a healthy relationship doesn’t hurt!
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If you or anyone you know needs help, please reach out. There is support available, even when it seems like a situation may be helpless.

So please, put these websites and phone numbers below in your contact list. You never know when you, someone you love, or someone you meet might need them.

http://www.thehotline.org

1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_help_treatment_prevention.htm

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    Kathleen

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    I agree. I was appalled when I saw that video, but then even more appalled to read that was his then-fiancée and now his wife! She went back to the brute? She may be a co-dependent who needs help. If they’ll do it once, they’ll do it again…my thoughts are the man may be even more angry because he lost a lucrative career and may take it out on her, but you can bet it won’t be in an elevator. He is being held accountable and this is as it should be. Accountability also includes public awareness of one kind or another. I only hope she doesn’t make excuses for his behavior. Thanks for posting a touchy subject.

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      prisakiss

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      Kathleen, co-dependency can be a powerful thing! My prayer is that both of these individuals are getting help and counseling.

      And that this raises awareness on how domestic violence situations are mishandled by authorities and mis-viewed by the general public.

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    Heather Ashby

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    Yes, Pris, thanks for reminding everyone out there that domestic violence has no place in ANY society. Sad that it takes an NFL player to bring it to the public’s attention – when it goes on inside everyday households, but if that’s what it takes to get people’s attention, then so be it. Thanks for the excellent post.

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      prisakiss

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      Heather, I appreciate you stopping by to post and for sharing the message that Domestic Violence is NOT acceptable.

      This goes beyond the NFL. It’s a societal situation. My hope is that awareness and help continue to spread.

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    emilymckay

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    Very powerful post!
    This issue–like so many in our society–is one we all have to take a stand on. We can’t pretend that because it doesn’t affect us personally it’s not something we need to worry about.

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      prisakiss

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      Emily, thanks for commenting! I completely agree, this is an issue that can no longer be ignored or brushed under the rug as something between a family. It’s a societal epidemic that affects generations.

      All of us– woman, man, child– deserve to feel safe, secure and loved in our homes, place of business and life in general.

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    Grace Burrowes

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    Thanks for this post. I was appalled to learn that for a child, seeing one parent abuse the other other is more stressful than dealing with the death of a loved one. Think about that. Death, a child can eventually make sense of–we all die. Watching one person who’s supposed to love and protect the child abuse the other person who’s supposed to love and protect the child…. in what universe can that possibly be sane? And that situation is affecting 10 million children RIGHT NOW. More facts we all need to know: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/soraya-chemaly/50-actual-facts-about-dom_b_2193904.html

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